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A brief note before I follow up with ALL THE REASONS

Dear friends and followers,

It has been eleventy billion hours since I last posted (yes, that is to the exact minute) on the internets.  I’ve missed you.  I think it’s time for me to come back.  As per the usual…life has been busy….jobs…life…blah blah blah.  I’ll spare you all the excuses.  Because excuses are like A-holes….everybody has one….right?  See…didn’t you miss me?

I have still been keeping up with running and fitness and all that jazzy jazz…..which is why I know that coming back will only be a continuation but also include some new and exciting stuff for me and YOU!  Yay!

Lastly, before I get to all the real ISH…..If you didn’t miss me at all….no worries..because I don’t believe I am that important that it matters anyway 🙂  (awww, listen to me acting all martyr-ish)  For reals though.  I’m just happy people are out there that are even interested….truth be told, I know my dad and stepmom read it…so I got that goin for me 🙂

AAAAAAAAAnd Scene.

Sincerely yours,

k8efitz

 

AAAAAAAAAND NOW!  Back from the depths of the other side of the world but really the suburbs of Philadelphia….me 🙂

 

CATHARSIS:  The last year has been a roller coaster to say the least.  We can all agree that it happens in each one of our lives. 

I was holding on for dear life

Overall, things in general are good.  I have my health, my family, my friends.  All good things.  Several cathartic experiences helped my journey to this point but it was with one major swoop that I managed to find The Four Agreements and The Mastery of Love that helped me regain my semblance of self and worth.  If you have never heard of these books, I highly recommend them.  Don Miguel Ruiz – The Four Agreements and The Mastery of Love.  You will be doing yourself a favor

It is from these four ideals that we are able to release what we used to think about life and to move forward in order to be a better person.  Inevitably, we have to be the best we can be for ourselves first before we even attempt a relationship.  And I’ve tried to maintain some interesting relationships…friendship or otherwise….the biggest ideal: Don’t take anything personally – is SO EYE OPENING.  Do yourself a favor and check them out.

Because of the emotional catharsis, I’ve been able to improve in all aspects of my life.

My yoga is bendy-er….my cycling/spinning is funner (yes, I know I’m an english teacher and YES, I know that’s not a word….WHO CARES)….my running is safer, cleaner, and more fulfilling than ever before.  My mind finally gets it…and my body is following along.

 

HUBRIS:  Truth be told…a great deal of why I haven’t posted here in the last eleventy billion hours is tied to my hubris.  I am a work in progress…like everyone else.  I am unique…like everyone else (get it?) But for awhile, I was allowing my own stupid pride and fact that I have failed so often, get in the way of being real for myself and all of you.

The last series of posts I wrote on here dealt a lot with my Marathon Training for The Steamtown Marathon last October.  Truth:  I almost didn’t finish.  Had it not been for my amazing support from my dear DEAR friends Heather and Jen….and of course my father who finally picked up the phone when I called him at mile 14 hysterical…..I would have undoubtedly DNF and felt FUBAR’ed……

While I am not going to recap my experience or disappointment, I was emotionally broken down after that race.  I had no desire or love for running and because I used to find so much of my happiness in doing so, I felt lost….sad….concerned I might never recover.  It was weird…and I will get into that for another post with specifics to running…but for now…just know….I am not going to allow my stupid pride get in my way…..

 

OTHER $10 WORDS: 

AMALGAM – Me to a “T” these days.  I am all over the place but the thing I’m maintaining is my workout regiment.  Thank god for running, biking, yoga, and other extra curriculars….

INCREDULOUS – That 2014 is more than half over, that I am where I am today, that I have an INCREDIBLE support system in place, and mostly that things might not always be presented to me in the way I expect but they always have a tendency of working themselves out.

finally,

INTRANSIGENCE – Beyond everything else….I have persevered…and continue to work toward the many goals I have set for myself.  I’ve come to acknowledge and believe in the following(and if you know me, you know that it’s no surprise it’s an Emerson quote):

See you soon!

So I am clearly not doing the greatest with keeping this baby updated – BUT – I haven’t forgotten about it!  There’s been a lot of craziness going on so naturally the first of my priorities to fall by the wayside is this here blog.  But I am still here!  And it’s FRIDAY!!!!  WOO!

But really, let’s talk about something important…..

I have been in an incredibly happy mood lately…..for plenty of good reasons.  Some of them I mentioned the other day…but really I’ve come to find that it’s easier and MORE FUN to be happy.  For so long I was sad and bummed out and all I wanted to do was hear other people’s bad stuff….so I could feel a little bit better.  You know that expression, ‘misery loves company’….it’s true.  But in the last few months, so many things have done a 180 and I’m entirely convinced it has to do with the concept to ‘just keep going’ and/or ‘just keep moving forward’.

In reality, whether we like it or not, life moves on without us.  We all have a choice – we can either sit there and be upset about what is going on or we can sit there and be thankful for the things we already have.

It’s more than likely at some point you’ve all seen the hashtag #firstworldproblems somewhere.  And if you’re just seeing it for the first time – it’s self explanatory.  I’m not trying to diminish anyone’s plight and/or things that are happening in their life at the moment

What I’m getting at is the fact that we all have a choice to be happy or sad.  I’ve found that when you put out the good, the good comes back to you two-fold.  Maybe not immediately but eventually.  And patience (although I tend to lack it at times) is definitely a virtue.  And I am not a highly religious person but I always think of this quote from Luke 6:38 when I think of putting the good out there….

That being said….my Five Truth’s Friday, today, is about the things I am thankful for at this moment in time….

1.  My mother

WHAAAAAAA?  I know – I KNOW!  More often than not I have been caught talking about my mother, in – well let’s just say, not the greatest light.  Truthfully, she’s been kind of amazing and an incredible support for me lately.  We’ve gotten a lot closer over the summer (she’s a teacher too so she had a lot of free time).  I am thankful to have her be so understand of me and to support my endeavors.  She was right there with me when I was struggling about what I was going had I been offered a job an hour away that requested I give up my coaching job at LM.  I won’t get into the specifics but with the incredible emotional reaction I had to even having to consider doing that…she totally understood.

My mother has recently developed a knack for texting – to give you an idea of what my mother is like (this is not an actual conversation between her and me but COULD be)….

 

2.  My Dad

If you’ve been reading my blog for a little while – you know how important my father is to me.  I am not joking when I tell you this post I wrote about him on his Birthday will likely get him that sainthood he’s been hoping for 😉  LOVE YOU DAD!

I haven’t spent a whole lot of time with my Dad in the last few months and I feel awful about that.  It’s not intentional but the thing is – he gets it.  I am busy.  And yes, I still want to see him and spend time with him but we still talk nearly every day.  He still knows what’s going on in my life.  He is still my favorite person in the entire world.  He gets it.  He gets me.  He’s probably one of the most understanding people in my life.  I am so thankful to have a father that knows me the way he does.  Plus, he’s the awesomest (I don’t care if that word is underlined – IT’S NOT MISSPELLED, AUTOCORRECT!)

3.  My friends

I know I say this often, at least – I think/hope I do, but my friends really are the best.  They’re entirely understanding of me when I am busy and forget to ask them how they are…..they are entirely supportive of me when I need someone to lean on.  My friends are basically my family – at least, I treat them that way.  I would do anything for them and go to the ends of the earth to help them if they needed it….they know I’m not a mind reader and they know that sometimes I forget.  I am incredibly thankful to have such a wonderful support group …

4.  My Sister

She and I don’t always see eye to eye…..but she has the same parents as me…so she gets it.  She understands it.  She doesn’t always understand me but she is there for me when I need her and I am there for her when she needs me.  Kellygirl was my first friend….or I was her first foe considering I am four years her junior and most likely after I was born there was less attention paid to her.  It just happens.  I was the younger one…..it all started that early July 11th morning when she woke up to my neighbor Sue telling her that our Mom and Dad left to go to the hospital….good times good times…

We have some of the funniest inside jokes…..including

Not quite the same but she knows what I mean 😉 Source

5.  My Health

I am incredibly thankful for my health.  In the last few months I had been feeling – well, not the greatest.  So I went to the doctor, had some blood tests…went to see a specialist….and it turns out – I am an incredibly healthy 30-something….  WOOT!

I am still training for my marathon.  I am still training for life.  I want to be the best self I can be and exercise and eating better help me get there.  I was recently talking to one of the kids I give swim lessons to about living a long time.  He informed me that his great grandmother was 90 years old.  I explained how wonderful that was and then proceeded to tell him I was planning on living til I was 120.  To which he informed me that the oldest person living is 110.  I was like….cool.  Imma beat that 😉  Age is just a number…and if I take care of my body now, I will have it for a LONG LONG time….how?  I think this lady is on the right track….

So I ask – what are YOU thankful for?

Happy Friday, Everyone!

First off – a HUGE CONGRATULATIONS TO DANI @ Trails and Cocktails on her engagement to one of my oldest and dearest friends, Josh!  Nothing but happiness wished to the both of you! 🙂

Secondly – My Monday turned out to be an awesome day.

Sometimes people complain about Monday’s:

or

In reality – I had every intention of making Monday a rest day.  And it was….

I had to head into school to work on the Record Board for the Swim Team(s) and then met up with my friend Heather for lunch at this great place that opened a few months ago near me called Zoe’s Kitchen.

The concept is great!  What you’ll find at Zoës Kitchen is Mediterranean-inspired food, where grilling is the predominate method of cooking along with an abundance of fresh fruits and vegetables, fresh herbs, olive oil and lean proteins; all while keeping our guests’ dietary concerns in mind– with gluten-free, vegetarian and vegan options.  Sounds delish, doesn’t it?  IT IS!!!

After a much needed catch up – I met up with my friend Paul for a walk in Valley Green.

We stopped at our halfway point at the Valley Green Inn

and shared a basket of sweet potato chips and two Victory Summer Love’s.  It was a GORGEOUS day and a nice four hours to spend with one of my oldest friends 🙂

Summerlove sign view sweetchips

Shortly thereafter, I met up with my best friend, Jackie for another nice walk along the Schuykill River on Martin Luther King Drive.  LOTS of fantastic conversation with this lady 🙂  A much needed few hours and so great to see her.  We both agreed it had to happen more often!

So basically, what I’m getting at is I walked – a LOT yesterday.  Today’s agenda involves a 6 mile run and some swim lessons.  My friend Mindy contacted me last night and reminded me to hold off on the heavy miles this week so I can get through our scheduled long run on Sunday.  Here’s hoping! 🙂

Anyway – does anyone ever experience a case of the “mondays”?

What did you do to start your week off right??

 

1.  Not only is it Free Slurpee Day but apparently they are twice as big as they used to be !

SCORE!!!!  So, go take advantage of 7-11 and get your free Slurpee from 7-11!!!

2.  Also – in unrelated news, it happens to be “manhood gets chopped off” day for my friend Jen’s Dog, Hermes.  I will be thinking of him all day as this will benefit the greater good of Jen’s friends and her home (especially since he has pretty much eaten all of her kitchen – and 2(TWO) of her remotes – she now uses her phone as a remote for her TV).

3.  As it happens – I share this day with four of my other friends:

Phil Sherby – A kickass friend from CMU (grad school) who now works in the ROK but is also a killer musician.  CHECK OUT HIS STUFF – TOTALLY WORTH IT

Lauren Byrd – Technically my sister’s friend but we are friends too!  She is a fellow blogger – also went to college for Communication (to the prestigious ‘CUSE) 🙂 CHECK HER SITE OUT!!!!

Tiffany Mazzara – She was a student of mine at CMU (grad school) – she is currently working for a radio company in Warren, Michigan and rockin’ it out in the sales department.

Finally, my “twin” – JOSH GRAHAM – Josh and I were born in the SAME HOSPITAL, on the SAME DAY.  For years, he thought he was older than me – turns out I am older than him – but only by a few hours 🙂  Josh and I met when we were 10 when he played kick ball in flip flops – this is the truth (ask him Dani) – and we’ve been friends every since.

From my 30th Birthday - Lauren, Me, Josh

From my 30th Birthday – Lauren, Me, Josh

4.  I misplaced my picture card for my driver’s license photo so yesterday I spent getting a new one – I will get my new driver’s license today – because, well it expires tomorrow.  ha!

5.  I ran 8 miles yesterday, instead of 7 – nothing too fast – but I felt like I could’ve run more.  Today’s goals are about the same.  I have been indulging too much when it comes to food this week – I am giving myself permission anyway.  It’s not like I do this all the time.

6.  My favorite message to this point in the day comes from my best friend, Randy: “Happy Birthday Kate!  We’re throwing a big party for you on Saturday!” – He’s getting married on Saturday 🙂

7.  Plans for the rest of the day/week/weekend – Business as usual but dinner with the fam tonight and other fam tomorrow night – then Randy’s wedding on Saturday (which I am PUMPED about!).

8.  I am still amidst my running/spinning – 7-8 miles for today, 4 tomorrow, teaching spin tomorrow and Saturday morning.  Long run (16 miles) on tap for Sunday – yes, I know – I have a wedding the night before.  What’s your point? 🙂

And for good measure:

Yesterday: Spin Class – Playlist:

  1. The Other Side        3:47    Jason Derulo   
  2. The Middle        2:49    Jimmy Eat World 
  3. Cruise (Remix) [feat. Nelly]        3:27    Florida Georgia Line 
  4. Emeli Sande – Next To Me [Music Video] 720p [Sbyky]        3:30     
  5. Wake Me Up        4:10    Avicii   
  6. The Script – Hall of Fame ft. will.i.am.mp4        3:53     
  7. Proud        4:29    Heather Small   
  8. Bad Romance        4:08    Halestorm 
  9. Shakira – Hips Don’t Lie ft. Wyclef Jean.mp4        3:39       
  10. Pitbull – Feel This Moment (Ft. Christina Aguilera) (1080p) x264 [VX]        3:56     
  11. Paint It Black        3:26    The Rolling Stones 
  12. I’ll Do Anything        3:12    Jason Mraz   
  13. The Remedy (acoustic)        3:56    Jason Mraz   

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Above quote was said by President Bartlet during the 1st Season of the 3rd Episode of TWW (The West Wing).  The name of that episode is called A Proportional Response.  I couldn’t help but think of how much this sentence rings true in so many other aspects of our lives.

The context of the conversation was over bombing a country but the idea behind it was basically, if someone does something to you and you’ve always reacted the same way – they’re expecting it.  Right?  Kind of goes along with one of my favorite quotes:

What I’m getting as is….it’s time to shake things up.  I tend to focus on the wrong things (some times) instead of the ones that are actually making me happy.  I tend to dwell on things I have no control over and/or things I want (read: I am impatient – like, woah).  Of course, I’m not like that with all things….for example – I don’t expect to be able to run at 3:25 marathon tomorrow – I am realistic in that I must train for that in order to get to it. 

So why…why when it comes to other things, do I have such a hard time just letting it progress???

If anyone can answer that for me – I’ll give you a million bucks (not that I have it – actually – I’ll probably make you my best friend/guru – so think wisely before you actually give me advice, your phone will be OFF THE HOOK with calls from me)…..

Basically – I need to refocus my energies……What makes me happy?  Who makes me happy?  How am I doing what’s best for me?

All selfish questions – right?  Not really.  Truth is, most people tend to forget about what it is that THEY need before others.  I am PLENTY guilty of this…..I am a giver.  I am a pleaser – that’s kind of the M.O. for many people who have an ED or recovered from an ED.  In reality, it’s only been in recent years that I have actually started to really think about what it is I want for my life.  Sometimes I still get swept up in what others think they hear me say….and what others tell me what they think I want.  So I figure it’s time for an evaluation…..

What makes me happy?

-My friends (duh) – I talk about them enough, don’t I?  My friends are pretty much the most fantastic people on the planet.  Proof?

My 30th Birthday - Phillies Tailgate

My 30th Birthday – Phillies Tailgate

Random Friday Night - Heather, Me, Dennis

Random Friday Night – Heather, Me, Dennis

These Shenanigans w/ Trish

These Shenanigans w/ Trish

Being a goofball with my best, Jacks

Being a goofball with my best, Jacks

Phillies NLCS 2009 - Jon, KC, Dad, Jo, Me, Brian

Phillies NLCS 2009 – Jon, KC, Dad, Jo, Me, Brian

Aster Lane Kids

Aster Lane Kids

Heather, Me, Jen

Heather, Me, Jen

Netty and Jacks

Netty and Jacks

 

-My Family

KC's Wedding in December 2012

KC’s Wedding in December 2012

Me and Mom

Me and Mom

Joanne, Me, Kelly

Joanne, Me, Kelly

Me and Dad

Me and Dad

-Running – Running undoubtedly makes me happy.  I enjoy it, even when it’s hard to get motivated to do it.  After every run, I feel better – my head is clearer – my mind is open – my thoughts are less emotional.  Running has a way of cleansing me more than any other form of exercise.  MORE than swimming ever did.

Although these are all simple things – I should focus on these simple things for now. 

Do what makes you happy, right???

 

SO….I ask all of you….what makes you happy???

 

First, there’s this:

I also love that the @ symbol is an Christian Fish/Jesus symbol.... So basically it reads "We'll open Jesus 12:00 on Mather's Day".  YESSSSSS

I also love that the @ symbol is an Christian Fish/Jesus symbol….
So basically it reads “We’ll open Jesus 12:00 on Mather’s Day”. YESSSSSS

Secondly, because it is – HAPPY MOTHER’S DAY MOM! (she doesn’t read this blog but I have to put it out there anyway):

Taken before the start of the Philly Half Marathon in 2008

Taken before the start of the Philly Half Marathon in 2008

Although she doesn’t read this, a bit of a tribute to my mother to follow……..

My mom is…well…to put it mildly….a bit crazy.  Crazy awesome, crazy annoying, crazy fun, and just plain hilarious some times.  Obviously we all have our issues with our parents and my mother is no exception.  I truly believe, though, that I have learned one of the most important aspects of my life from her – DON’T EF WITH MY FRIENDS AND FAMILY OR I’LL EF YOU RIGHT BACK UP.  Truth.  She can drive me nuts and she can have unreasonable comments (she actually told  my friend Paul he should settle down already – this was 6 years ago – and stop traveling so much….wtf)….she can even be mean….but she’s my mom and she’s real.

What you don’t realize is that my mother NEVER missed one of my sporting events in high school or even college.  To this day, she STILL comes to every home swim meet I have….and I’m the COACH.  She has always been a backbone for me and even though she loves to try to start arguments with me (about ridiculous things) and she never gets far with it….she is my mother.  I love her very much.  She has supported me through my ED, through transferring schools, through moving (on average once every 2 years in the last 10 years), she will be there for me when I have kids (mainly because she wants to kidnap them from me and keep them as her own – BUILT IN BABYSITTER RIGHT THERE)….and she also reminds me, weekly, that I am still husbandless and childless…..so that’s awesome too…..

But it’s not because she’s trying to make me feel bad…it’s because she wants those things for me…just like she had them…the only difference is the things she did in her life: travel, work/teach, live overseas….she did much earlier than I did….I’m still hoping those things are on my near horizon but if they aren’t….I know she’ll be supportive of me regardless…….and she’ll tell me to freeze my eggs…….:-)

HAPPY MOTHER’S DAY to all the moms out there who do so much for their children and for the people they love so dearly!

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The second part of this post….if you’re still reading….

This weekend I originally had no plans and then plans I made fell through…..UNTIL my friends were all like….hey Katie, let’s hang out 🙂  Duh.  Why didn’t I think of that?

So Friday I went to see my Lax Girls in their final game – which is also Senior Day:

seniordayThey won, btw.  I was so proud of them – I missed coaching for them this year (decision made for personal reasons).  I hope to go back next year and work with the team…we’ll see if that happens…..

Shortly thereafter, I went to grab drinks with my friend Heather and that’s when a plethora of happiness happened.

Ever have one of those days or moments or even just evenings when everything kind of works out really well and is super awesome?  This was one of those afternoons/evenings.

I ran in to a bunch of smiling faces at the game…my friend Bill, Brad, Don…..and although they didn’t join as at John Henry’s, Dennis did.  Dennis and I haven’t hung out in forever so it was nice that he came and joined me and Heather.

It was important to mention Senior Day because the Juniors gave all the seniors goldfish…yes…like..real fish…..but Heather was in charge of them so she had a few extra….so for fun she brought it to the bar…because…WHY NOT!?….it became our mascot 🙂

Meet Habby (pronounced Hobby - like a hobby you have)

Meet Habby (pronounced Hobby – like a hobby you have)

THEN, we took a group picture…because…why not?!

Heather, Habby, Me, Dennis

Heather, Habby, Me, Dennis

And then all good things happened…..my friend Jen joined us!  Jim showed up, Habby (the real one) showed up….ALBERT SHOWED UP (love him)….and we were just sitting and chillin’.  I love it when all good things happen.  A little later, as we were getting ready to head out…Luke popped in – haven’t seen him in forever  (and I realize many of you do not know who these people are…but just bear with me).  My point is…..I haven’t gone out in a while…for a lot of reasons…but Friday…it was like nothing had changed and no one gave me a hard time for it…it was so nice to just know that regardless of how long I’ve been gone, they’ll be there to give me huge hugs and laughs always.

Additionally…I started telling Dennis about my plans to BQ at Steamtown…..and he signed up to run the race with me!  Right there, at the bar…..I asked him simply to help me pace a bit for practice runs…he decided to take it one step further.  And even if he chooses to run the race for himself instead of with me to help me BQ….runner’s  you know this….it helps TREMENDOUSLY to have a friend with you during the race.  REALLY – even if that person is just next to you….there’s something about the desire to push yourself more because you don’t want to give up.

I have amazing friends.

And it gets better!  Saturday morning I went to my friend Kristie’s Yoga class – WHICH ROCKS! and then had breakfast with her and Jackie.  The three of us have been friends since high school and it’s so nice that we are all still connected 🙂  It’s just awesome.  They’re fabulous!

Last night, I met up with Jen and Gwyn – friends of mine from Albright/Phi Mu – and we went to From The Boot….real Italian right there….I still smell like garlic!  Can’t wait to sweat it out on my run this morning 🙂  Last night was full of laughs and truth’s and just a lot of everything.

I HAVE AMAZING FRIENDS 🙂